The Perfect Present

Here we are. That time of year again. Time to figure out what to give everyone on our Christmas lists. The masters of marketing are ramping up their efforts to bombard us with the latest toys, gadgets and extravagances. I actually saw a Lamborghini in a showroom window with a bow on it just last week. Really.

christmasgiftboxI love giving. There are few feelings quite so gratifying as getting just the right thing for just the right person. It’s joyful and far better than receiving. I often wish that I could give something to humanity as a whole.

Well, here’s a thought: Maybe I can, and maybe you can, too.

Are you aware of the fact that the greatest gifts any of us have ever been given are our talents? That each one of us, whether we’ve identified them or not, were given some unique abilities that are just ours and no one else’s? It’s true, and it’s a damned shame if we don’t try and regift at every opportunity.

You may have a talent that you’re fully aware of but afraid to share – that one thing that comes easily to you and brings you joy. Know that sharing it will also bring joy to others and make floating around on this blue and green orb all worthwhile. And, like a lot of bullies, fear will back down if you confront it, anyway. It’s secretly wimpy that way.

Regift your talents and abilities this holiday season. If you want to put a bow on your head while you do it, I say, CHEERS!!

Merry Christmas, everyone, and may 2015 see you expressing the truest version of ourselves.

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Writing Past The Fear


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Is writing scary? Everything has potential to be scary, but it doesn’t have to be. For those of you who do feel fear, I’m betting it manifests itself something like . . .

‘What if they hate it?’

‘What if my work actually sucks?’

‘What if I can’t stop staring at this blank screen and spend the rest of my life resenting everyone who’s ever gotten published?’

Writing itself isn’t as scary as NOT writing. Not writing sends you into a dark dungeon full of tormented, frustrated artists and leaves you feeling like your throat is closing off. Do I exaggerate?

I think we’ve all been there at some point, but my best advice is simply to write – something. Maybe not a chapter in your novel, but something.

Journaling helps me. It’s one of the best conduits for creative energy. The act of putting pen to paper takes me out of the mechanical act of it all and puts me in a more cerebral state. I connect better to a physical page, and even if I’m writing about the frustration of not writing, I’m writing. Make sense?


To quote Charles Bukowski, “Writing about a writer’s block is better than not writing at all.”

Journaling can unravel that string of chatter in your mind by spitting it onto the page and leaving your mind with more freedom to create outside of the confines of frustration.

Try it. You can get yourself unstuck and stop berating yourself. You can simply write.

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